We are starting to cautiously move out of lockdown and I find myself pondering how I can continue all my online classes for those that enjoy them, open my hall classes for those who prefer them and at the same time take a holiday! As Abraham Lincoln said:
“You can please some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time”.
It is a fact that by trying to please everyone someone will be disappointed. I’m sure you have experienced this many times in your own life. The most important thing is to do what makes you happy and what pleases you. As long as you’re doing the right things with a good heart, that’s all that really matters.
The truth of the matter is that we are all different. We live different lives and have different beliefs, values, relationships, thoughts and emotions. Although common threads might join us, we are all unique in our own little ways and since we are all unique, with unique points of view and ways of doing things it is impossible to please everyone in life. That might be the reason why, no matter what you do, think or feel, someone will act dismayed or feel disgruntled by the very notion of your choices. What’s important is that you do you.
When we try to please everyone, we end up attracting negativity. The Law of Attraction is powerful. We don’t realize that we attract whatever is in our minds. We have a tendency for attracting those things into our lives that are at the forefront of our minds. When you try to please everyone, you simply end up attracting more negativity. You can’t please them all. So be careful with what you’re thinking or saying on a daily basis.
When we try to please everyone, we end up sacrificing who we really are deep down inside. We end up going against the grain of the things that we’ve always wanted in life. When we do that, we suffer over the long term, having regrets and replaying those what-ifs and should-haves in our mind over and over again. Don’t allow other peoples’ opinions stop you from doing what you really love. You can’t please them all. If you really want to pursue something, even if you’ve failed a number of times and even if people have spoken negatively about you in the past, do it. Do it for you. Do it because it’s what you really want out of life.
When we try to please others all the time, we lose ourselves. We lose our identities. The things that we used to hold near and dear are all but forgotten. We live a life of conformity, trying to adapt to the will of others who pressure us into doing things that please them rather than what pleases us. You should pursue your dreams no matter what. Don’t put your dreams on hold just because you’re trying to please all the other people around you.
Whatever you want out of life, whatever dreams or desires you might have, not everyone around you is going to understand them. People are usually frightened by what they don’t understand. Since your journey is unique, you can’t expect everyone to understand it and you also can’t expect that every action you take or decision you make to please everyone. It simply won’t happen but don’t let it dissuade you from confidently marching towards your goals.
Never give up on your hopes and your dreams just because you’re trying to make others happy around you. To a certain extent, the happiness of our family and friends is important but not beyond the extent that we start self-sacrificing all that we’ve ever wanted and hoped for in life. You can achieve anything you put your mind to. It doesn’t matter what other people say or think about you. As long as you’re doing what makes you happy, that’s what’s important. As long as you’re doing things for the right reasons with the right motivations, you should never feel sorry for it.
So, subject to restrictions continuing to ease, I’ll be bringing one hall class back in July and adjusting the times of two of my online classes. I’ll keep you updated as to the start date for these changes but it will be after I take a holiday some time in June. As I plan out the next few months, I’m going to remember the words of Octavia Spencer:
“You cannot live to please everyone else. You have to edify, educate and fulfill your own dreams and destiny, and hope that whatever your art is that you’re putting out there is received. If it’s received, great, I respect you for receiving it. If it’s not received, great, I respect you for not.” — Octavia Spencer